Am I Overgiving?

Question 1 of 8

When someone needs help, you…

Jump in — being the one who helps is part of who I am. Say yes to avoid the awkwardness of saying no. Help without really thinking about it; it's just what I do. Check in with myself first, then help if I genuinely can.

Question 2 of 8

After a day of giving to everyone, you feel…

Proud, but quietly drained and a little unseen. Relieved that nobody was upset with me. Normal — I don't really notice, it's just my day. Fine, because I also kept a little for myself.

Question 3 of 8

When something you did goes unthanked, you…

Feel hurt — I gave a lot and it wasn't recognised. Worry that I did something wrong. Barely register it and move on. Let it go; I didn't do it for the thanks.

Question 4 of 8

Saying "no" to someone you care about feels…

Like I'm failing them. Frightening — they might be disappointed or pull away. Rare — I don't often pause long enough to consider no. Uncomfortable sometimes, but I can do it when it's right.

Question 5 of 8

Your own needs usually…

Come last — everyone else's feel more urgent than mine. Get set aside to keep everyone else okay. Slip my mind until I'm running on empty. Get met, because I've learned they matter too.

Question 6 of 8

When you rest or do something just for you, you feel…

Guilty, like I should be doing something useful for someone. Anxious that someone might need me. Restless — I'm not used to it. Replenished, and no apology needed.

Question 7 of 8

The people in your life tend to…

Rely on you as the strong, giving one. Rarely see when you're struggling, because you keep the peace. Assume you're fine, because you always just keep going. Know they can count on you — and that you'll name your limits.

Question 8 of 8

Most days, your giving feels most like…

A way to earn my place and be worthy of love. A way to keep everyone calm and avoid conflict. A reflex I run without thinking. A choice I make from a full cup, not an empty one.